Books By Author

Getting the Love You Want – 1st published in 1988; revised in 2008

Keeping the Love You Find – 1992

Giving the Love that Heals -1997

Receiving Love – 2004

Making Marriage Simple – 2013

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Daring Greatly, How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, & Lead

The Gifts of Imperfection

I Thought It Was Just Me

The Power of Vulnerability

Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

The Five Love Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships

Anxious in Love co-authored Lissah Lorberbaum

Affect Regulation Toolbox, Practical & Effective Hypnotic Interventions for the Over-reactive Client

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail & How You Can Make Yours Last
The Relationship Cure
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Centering & the Art of Intimacy Handbook, A New Psychology of Close Relationships

The Conscious Heart, Seven Soul-Choices That Create Your Relationship Destiny

Conscious Loving, the Journey to Co-commitment, A Way to Be Fully Together Without Giving Up Yourself

Mining for Gold in Your Marriage

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Attachment Processes in Couple & Family Therapy

Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician

Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do the Find Real Love

Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve their Lives

“Straight Guise – Is My Partner Gay?” Mending a Shattered Heart, A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts, Stefanie Carnes , editor

Getting the Sex You Want

The New Monogamy: Refining Your Relationship After Infidelity

Spent: Break the Buying Obsession & Find True Worth

Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?

Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You? …The Workbook

Inner Bonding, Becoming a Loving Adult to Your Inner Child

Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking

The Truth About Love: The Highs, the Lows & How You Can Make It Last Forever

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About Itco-authored with Steven Stosny

How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men & Women

I Don’t Want to Talk About It

The New Rules of Marriage, What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

Embracing Each Other – Relationship as Teacher, Healer, and Guide

Embracing Ourselves – The Voice Dialogue Manual

Embracing Your Inner Critic – Turning Self-Criticism into a Creative Asset

Partnering, A New Kind of Relationship, How to Love Each Other Without Losing Yourselves

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, co-authored with Pat Love

The Powerful Self

Love Without Hurt, Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship Into a Compassionate Loving One

Treating Attachment Abuse: A Compassionate Approach

Books By Subject

Better Boundaries, Owning & Treasuring Your LifeJan Black & Greg Enns

Boundaries in Marriage, Cloud & Townsend

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say NO to Take Control of Your Life, Cloud & Townsend

Boundaries, Where You End & I BeginHow to Recognize & Set Healthy BoundariesAnne Katherine,

Loving Your Partner without Losing Your Self, Martha Beveridge *Imago therapist

Making Our Lives Our Own, Marilyn Mason

Where to Draw the Line, How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day, Anne Katherine

Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment & How It Can Help You Find & Keep Love, Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

Beyond Co-DependencyMelodie Beattie

Cherishment, A Psychology of the Heart, Elizabeth Young-Bruehl & Faith Bethelard

Co-Dependent No More, Melodie Beattie

The Dance of Anger, Harriet Lerner

The Dance of Fear, Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, & Shame to Be your Best & Bravest SelfHarriet Lerner

Dare to Connect, Reaching Out in Romance, Friendship, & the Workplace, Susan Jeffers

Facing Shame, Merle Fossum & Marilyn Mason

Flourish, a Visionary New Understanding of Happiness & Well-being, Martin Seligman

Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway, Susan Jeffers

Forgive for Love, the Missing Ingredient for a Healthy & Lasting Relationship, Fred Luskin

Homecoming: Reclaiming & Championing Your Inner ChildJohn Bradshaw

How to Be an Adult in Relationships, the Five Keys to Mindful Loving, David Richo

How to Break Your Addiction to a Person, When & Why Love Doesn’t Work & What to Do About It, Howard Halpern

Imago: The Therapy of Love, Jette Simon *Imago Therapist

Journey of the Heart, Intimate Relationships & the Path of Love, John Welwood

Love & Awakening, Discovering the Sacred Path of Intimate RelationshipJohn Welwood

The New Science of Adult Attachment & How It Can Help You Find & Keep Love, Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

Soul Talk, Powerful, Positive Communication for a Loving PartnershipNina Atwood

Take Back Your Marriage, Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart, William Doherty

The Three Marriages – Reimaging Work, Self, & RelationshipDavid Whyte

True Love, How to Make Your Relationship Sweeter, Deeper, & More Passionate, Daphne Rose Kingma

When “Good Enough” is Never Enough: Escaping the Perfectionism Trap, Jeremy P.Tarcher

The Wizard of Oz & Other NarcissistsEleanor Payson *Imago Therapist

Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate LovemakingPat Love

Getting the Sex You WantTammy Nelson

Mating in Captivity, Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, Esther Perel

The New Monogamy: Refining Your Relationship After Infidelity, Tammy Nelson

Sex is Perfectly Natural, But Not Naturally Perfect, Sue Johnson

Your Long Erotic Weekend: Four Days of Passion for Lifetime of Magnificent SexLana Holstein & David Taylo

Adultery, the Forgivable Sin, Bonnie Eaker Weil

After the Affair: Healing the Pain & Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful,Janis Abrahms Spring

Back from Betrayal, Saving a Marriage, A Family, A Life, Suzy Farbman

Beyond Affairs, James and Peggy Vaughan – (The Vaughans’ personal story is as exciting as any novel, as painful as any truth.)

Financial Infidelity, Bonnie Eaker Weil

How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To, Janis Abrahms Spring with Michael Spring

Make Up, Don’t Break Up, Bonnie Eaker Weil

Making Love Stay – Everything You Ever Knew About Love but Forgot, Peggy Vaughan

The Monogamy Myth – A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs, Peggy Vaughan

My Husband’s Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me: An Inspiring True Story,   Anne Bercht, Brian Bercht, & Danielle Bercht

NOT Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust & Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley Glass

Preventing Affairs – You CAN have a Monogamous Marriage, Peggy Vaughan

Recovering From Affairs , A Handbook for Couples, James and Peggy Vaughan

Boundaries with Teens, When to Say Yes, How to Say NoTownsend

Connection Parenting, Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion, Through Love Instead of FearPam Leo

Giving the Love That Heals, A Guide for Parents, Harvile Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt *Imago Therapist

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

It’s Not Fair, Jeremy Spencer’s Parents Let Him Stay Up All Night, Anthony E. Wolf

Kids Pick Up on EVERYTHING, How Parental Stress Is Toxic to KidsDavid Code

Nurture the Nature, Understanding & Supporting Your Child’s Unique Core Personality,Michael Gurian

Parenting by Heart, How to Stay Connected to Your Child in a Disconnected World, RonTaffel

Parenting with Awareness & Understanding, Myla & Jon Kabat-Zinn

Parenting from the Inside Out, Daniel Siegel & Mary Hartzell

Parenting with Love & Logic, Teaching Children ResponsibilityFoster Cline & Jim Fay

Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids, 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict Into Co-operationSur Hart & Victoria Kindle Hodson

Siblings Without RivalryAdele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First , David Code

Your Child’s Growing Mind: Brain Development & Learning from Birth to AdolescenceJane Healy

Why Kids of All Ages Need to Hear NO & Ways Parents Can Say ItDavid Walsh

Get Out of My Life but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall, A. Wolf

Parents and Adolescents Living Together, G. Patterson & M. Forgatch

Parenting Teens with Love and Logic, Updated & Expanded Edition

A Parent’s Guide to the Teen Brain, a website

Buddha’s Brain, the Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, & Wisdom, Rick Hanson

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life, The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Anger, & Impulsiveness, Daniel Amen

Magnificent Mind at Any Age, Natural Ways to Unleash Your Brain’s Maximum Potential,Daniel Amen

Making a Good Brain Great, Daniel G. Amen

The Developing Mind, How Relationships & the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are, Dan Siegel

The Brain that Changes Itself, Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science, Norman Doidge

Re-wire Your Brain for Love, Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness, Marsha Lucas

 Train You Mind, Change Your Brain, How a New Science Reveals Our Extraordinary Potential to Transform Ourselves by Sharon Begley

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